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Let's face it girls, the world is changing and we want more in the bedroom but we have to be safe on how we do things.

Always remember...

The three pillars of how to be safe in the lifestyle

Verification

Always ask for extra verification.

Protection

Always take your own condoms.

Tell, tell, tell

Tell a trusted friend where you are.

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Double verification never hurt anyone. Never take the risk. Ask for more pics, FaceTime or do some digging.

I'll be the first to say this. Incidents in the lifestyle are one in a billion. Still, your feeling for safety and security are top priority.

I always ask for a FaceTime, no one who is genuine and transparent will make excuses to not do so. If you get a bad feeling about something, trust you gut. Cut your losses and move on.

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Telling someone where you will be can ensure a level of safety if anything does go wrong.

Tell a trusted friend the address of where you're going or who is coming to your place of residence, just incase. Always make sure to text your trusted friend when you arrive and when you've finished. It's always nice to know you've got someone there if you need anything.

Codewords are a great way to get out of a sticky situation and not the kind you want to be in. If you message your friend the codeword then they can call with a fake emergency to get you out of there without the awkwardness of saying "I've changed my mind"

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Never ever give your phone number out to anyone if you wish to remain discreet.

Did you know when someone saves your phone number you will come up as a recommended friend on social media platforms? Keep reading for a list of good places to to take your chat elsewhere.

A good start is keeping your chat on the site you've met on. If that doesn't work for you, Telegram is a great way to talk with others by not sending your phone number, but your username you assigned on there. I would also recommend using SnapChat if you're not sure about Telegram.

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To ensure safe sex happens every time, take your own protection and take plenty of it.

In my own experience, I have stated my boundaries to single guys that they must wear condoms at all times, and in return, they have agreed. Not all of them, but the odd one has said they haven't brought any and would convince me that it feels better to have sex without one.

My first move was always to state that I am not any contraception (which I was), which usually scares them enough not to push any further, and I would ask them politely to leave and re-arrange another date. The truth is, I've always got condoms to hand, but if they can't respect my boundaries to wear protection, then they wouldn't respect my boundaries in the bedroom.

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Women will get hundreds of messages and we should expect to get some bad ones too.

Let's admit it, I'm writing this while SwingHub is in the works of being finished but there are some terrible lifestyle websites. Women who sign up to these te

As women, we have the right to feel safe and secure when engaging in sexual encounters, whether it's a one-night stand or a long-term relationship. However, in the world we live in, it's important for women to take extra precautions to ensure their safety when hooking up with men and couples.

One of the most important things women can do to protect themselves is to trust their instincts. If something feels off or uncomfortable, it's important to listen to that inner voice and remove yourself from the situation. It's also important to have a plan in place for how to leave a situation if necessary. This might include having a code word with a friend or family member, or having a pre-arranged ride home.

Another important step for women is to be aware of their surroundings. This means paying attention to where you are, who you're with, and who's around you. It's also important to not be too trusting of strangers and to be aware of red flags, such as someone who is overly pushy or aggressive.

Communication is key in any sexual encounter, and it's important for women to clearly communicate their boundaries and desires. This means setting limits on what you're comfortable with and not being afraid to say "no" if something makes you uncomfortable. It's also important to establish a safe word or phrase that can be used as a signal to stop the encounter if necessary.

In addition, it's important for women to be aware of the potential risks of hooking up with men they don't know well. This includes the risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and unwanted pregnancies. It's important to always use protection and to be aware of the risks associated with unprotected sex.

Finally, it's important for women to seek help if they feel unsafe or uncomfortable in a situation. This can include contacting a friend or family member, contacting the police, or seeking support from a sexual assault support center.

Lets talk about clubs?

Clubs are a great way for women to explore, but it doesn't always go the way you expect. Here's some advice from myself and others who have given me feedback on their visits to clubs.

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Here are a few tips for us ladies going to clubs!

Make sure to take your own protection
Wear lingerie under your clothes or in your bag to change into later.
Make sure to introduce yourself to others who interest you but don't assume they are interested.
DO NOT get too intoxicated.

You may be submissive but if you feel uncomfortable with someones actions. Speak up. You can always go to the staff of the venue with any issues and they will resolve it. The aim is to have a magical and rememberable night.

Go, Go, Go!

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